Somewhere along the way, we were taught that grief has a finish line. That after a certain amount of time, we’re supposed to “move on” or “get over it.” People mean well, but those words can feel like a dismissal, as if our love and loss have an expiration date.
The truth is, you may not get over it. And you don’t have to. Healing isn’t about erasing what happened. It’s about learning to carry it differently, so it doesn’t weigh you down in the same way.
Real healing isn’t a straight path, and it isn’t about forgetting. It’s allowing yourself to feel the grief without being swallowed by it. It’s finding moments of joy without guilt. It’s being able to speak your loved one’s name or tell your story without feeling crushed every time.
Instead of “get over it,” what if we said:
Changing the words we use changes the way we see ourselves, and the way others see our journey.
The ache may never disappear completely and that’s okay. It’s part of loving deeply and living fully. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means integrating the loss into your life in a way that allows room for joy, purpose, and connection again.
If you’re ready to carry your loss in a way that feels lighter and more life-giving, I’d be honored to walk beside you on that journey. You deserve compassion, hope, and the space to heal in your own time.
